I would wait until I found both. There’s no reason the guy who listens can’t improve himself to make a more stable financial future. Frankly I wouldn’t tolerate somebody who doesn’t have the same drive as I do. Don’t settle. But since these “either or” questions usually aren’t reality but fun little hypotheticals, I’ll take the money. I can talk shop about The Decubitus That Swallowed the Anus with my friends who are nurses. It’s more important that he understands how important my work is to me and supports my drive than being able to tell him that somebody crapped in my (thankfully gloved) hand today. Fortunately I found both.
And the harsh truth for anybody with the naive, hyper-romantic ideal of marriage is…he still drives me nuts.