For the Men: What obstacles have you guys encountered working on the Obstetrics floor?
For the Women: How do you guys view men working on a female driven department/floor?
My very first OB patient while in nursing school … I went in, introduced myself, “Hello, my name is Jason. I’m a student nurse and I’ll be working with you today along with your primary nurse.” Or something like that. She looked at me and said, and I quote, “YOUR KIND DID THIS TO ME, GET THE F&$K OUT!” I asked for a new patient. Instructor originally said no, but when she heard the quote she agreed and gave me a new patient. This was another drama filled environment and the outcome of her marriage was going to be based on the color of the kid that came out, as the husband wasn’t going to stay married if it wasn’t his kid and her boyfriend was another race. I hated every second of OB, to this day, 20 years later. My mom raised me not to feel a strangers breast and ask them about their flow, all with the husband giving me the “I should kill you for that” look.
Although I know the attitude is wrong (I am a mom of 2) with my first I had a male Dr. and women nurses. Despite switching practices for the second to 6 female docs and one male- I had our son when the male Dr. was on.
It’s not fair. It’s discriminatory. I get it. But for many women including myself- it just wasn’t comfortable. I wanted someone who knew what it was like to experience the pain, first hand. Not someone saying they understood- because they’ve read about it or watched someone else go through it.
I realize it is offensive to the male nurses and doctors. But in OB reality- do most (not all) males really want to be at that place sometimes elbow deep in baby stuff?
I wouldn’t have kicked you out. But I would have hated every second of you there, and it probably would have slowed my labor.
I’m sorry to hear about your experience. I on the other hand have loved every single minute of it and have not had many negative responses from mothers. I think in the end it should be about the patient care. As nurses we are taught to not discriminate patients but somehow patients can do that to us? I sometimes feel patients have way many more rights than us as nurses.
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