Nurses don’t gossip, right?

Posted on May 15, 2013 by in Nurse Stories

crazyNotesAs nurses, we gossip.

In fact, we’re world champion gossipers.

And, not only do we gossip, we relish it, wallowing in extraneous conversations like pigs in mud.

We even gossip about gossip.

We want to know all the dirt, and the dirty the dirt, the better.

However, most of the gossip reverberating throughout the halls of hospitals is like a fire spreading throughout the hills of southern California: it’s dangerous.

Usually, gossip is nothing more than a volatile concoction mixed of conjecture, hearsay, and a dab of opinion, a potentially explosive compound which may, if we’re careful, detonate in our face.

Be careful what you say

As an adult, gossip reminds me of a game of telephone, the game we played as kids.

At the time, it was fun, I enjoyed watching and listening to the original message of A + B = C to, after a few people, A + D = B, and so forth.

Yes, it was an amusing pastime, but we should leave it for the proverbial playground.

Now, I could bore you with the evolutionary psychology regarding the specific social functions of gossip, but I’ll spare you.

Instead, I’ll just cut straight to the chase: it’s informative.

If you haven’t guessed, it’s instinctual, a social means of communicating underground information amongst members of a group, whether it be our colleagues at work or members of our family.

Albeit, we’re instinctual animals, we’re self-aware; we’re more than beasts, we can choose right from wrong.

Gossip is, in my opinion, both wrong and unprofessional, as it contributes to a caustic work environment and an ‘us vs. them’ mentality, pitting unit against unit, shift against shift, and nurse against nurse.

In the past, I’ve participated in gossip.

Yep, I can spin rumors and gossip like a spider spins a web.

Guilty as charged! However, I’m turning a new leaf, purposely distancing myself from gossip; I will not participate in gossip nor be a purveyor of it.

Instead of gossiping, I’m devoting my time towards perfecting my craft, advancing my career, and writing for you.

In closing, as the old adage goes, “if you’re not a part of the solution, you’re a part of the problem.”

About Joshua Felts RN

Joshua holds a BSN in Nursing, and two bachelor’s degrees, one in economics, the other in history. If you’re a patient, be careful. You might get a dose of ancient Roman history and a lecture on economic theory while having your blood drawn.

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7 Responses to “Nurses don’t gossip, right?”

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    Jason Hautala RN
    16 May 2013 at 9:25 AM #

    I thought the old adage went, “If you aren’t part of the solution, you are part of the precipitate.” Otherwise, great article :) Good luck on avoiding the gossip machine.

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    Debby
    18 May 2013 at 12:30 PM #

    Great article! Gossip is a form of bullying . It is hurtful and should not be tolerated in work environment!

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    Barbara Thornley
    18 May 2013 at 4:45 PM #

    hate gossip , been the victim of it , won’t get involved in it , and neither should any other professional .

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    LisaRN 6 June 2013 at 6:06 PM #

    We are dealing with this issue a lot lately on our floor. We have one or two individuals who never have a kind word to say about anyone and are constantly gossiping about whoever isn’t around, showing me that they are doing this to me, when I’m not around. I’m more for the old adage if thy will gossip with you they will gossip about you! I have participated as well, and later hated myself for it, so I too have decided not to participate anymore and also to discourage those who do gossip by defending those the person is gossiping about if I know better, so at least they will learn not to gossip around me,although I know nothing will ever truly stop them completely.

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    Centurion 20 June 2014 at 5:05 AM #

    It isn’t so much about gossip is about tattle telling over the littlest things or nonsense. It seems people get off on this and it makes them feel superior.

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    Nslynn 21 June 2014 at 9:28 PM #

    I just don’t do my work and don’t say anything. I hate working with a bunch of women. I am a female but I do not get into gossip. To each their own. I just don’t care. What anybody does as long as it doesn’t affect me.

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    Karkarlina 22 June 2014 at 12:59 AM #

    Women can be unbelievably cruel sometimes, especially in a small facility. I worked as a CNA in a 40-bed SNF, part-time, for not even 60 days. I kept to myself and did not associate with coworkers outside of the workplace. The boss’s son was a CNA there as well, and he was extremely helpful and nice, where no one else would bother to help me. Now, I should point out that I’m a happily married woman, and I do NOT cheat. Because he was nice to me during the workday, the girls I worked with started accusing me of fraternization… on work property. I was bullied by all of them on a daily basis. This got so out of hand that one day, without warning, my boss terminated me on the grounds of “people were complaining about me”…(She openly admitted to her son later that she did it because she heard I was allegedly “fraternizing” with him)
    I have been a CNA for two years and have never had anyone complain about patient care, nor have I been written up. When I asked after I’d been let go what I could do to improve myself as a CNA for my next job, my boss wouldn’t even give me a straight answer. All she kept saying was “just stay in nursing school” and “get your degree instead… being a CNA is hard!”

    I will be an RN by the end of next year. I don’t think I’ll be working as a CNA at another facility similar to this one anytime soon!


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